Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Monday, May 30, 2011
I got to sleep in until 7:30! That was a nice beginning. I went to the gym with Caitlin, and after the workout we walked over to the cemetery to visit Mom. It was a nice, peaceful morning.
I rushed home to help Brian pack for his work trip. He's off to Texas for a couple of days. I am sad that he's gone, but I am excited for him to have this opportunity with his work. Lila is just sad. She is not understanding why her daddy isn't coming home tonight.
So rather than sit around and feel sad we decided to go run a couple of errands and then met Grandma T. for lunch at McDonald's. Happy Meals and running around the play area seemed to perk everyone right up. Although I was once again reminded of one of my top ten pet peeves: parents who can't look up from their cell phones or iphones or other electronics for even a second to see that their out of control hellion is running amok and pushing smaller kids out of their way. Poor Lila has a lovely raspberry on her forehead from getting kicked by a bigger kid who wasn't looking where they were going. But other than that, lunch was a great treat.
Now we are getting packed up to go spend the night with Grandma T. She was so sweet to offer us a place to crash since I don't sleep very well when Brian is out of town. The kids are excited to be having a sleepover/movie night with Grandma. I am excited at the thought of early bedtimes.
I hope your holiday has been equally relaxing. Happy Memorial Day!
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Sunday, May 29, 2011
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Saturday, May 28, 2011
We decided to take the kids out for lunch today for a special treat. We opted for IHOP and told them all to get dressed quickly. Jake came back upstairs wearing jeans and pulling a golf shirt over his head. Suddenly he stopped and asked, "Mom, is this formal enough for IHOP?" I told him no, mostly to see what his idea of formal was, but Brian reassured him that he was dressed appropriately.
After we got to the restaurant and had been seated, all three children quickly decided on pancakes. Lila even ordered for herself, "I have da baby cakes p'ease" and completely charmed our waitress. Then they happily settled to coloring their place mats. As we were waiting we talked and laughed, and just generally enjoyed each other's company.
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Friday, May 27, 2011
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Thursday, May 26, 2011
After yesterday's post it should come as no surprise when I tell you that I have been feeling like my parenting skills could use a little work. I mean, if I were a better mom then my two year old wouldn't be so rebellious and naughty. It's probably because my kids eat processed sugar and food dyes....
I am kidding, of course, but it's easy after a hard day to feel like you are failing where everyone else makes it look easy. I was reading through my blog list this morning and the title on The Idea Room jumped out at me. How to Avoid Taking Your Stress out on Your Children. It's part one of a series of posts by a Family Psychology teacher at BYU. I really needed to read this today. And the best thing I took away from it was noticing that some of her ideas are things I already excel at, and some ideas are areas I could work on, and some ideas were things I had never thought of before and am excited to try.
My favorite section of the post is Have Realistic Expectations. Especially where she says, "No one has our unique set of circumstances." I want to focus on that for the next little while. I need to cut both myself and my baby a little slack and realize that neither of us have been in this situation before. I have said many times to others, "You are great mom! You love little so and so and want to do the best you can for them." And now I am saying it to myself. I am a great mom. I love Lila (even when she is being a little so and so) and want to be the best mom I can for her. I am going to work harder at meeting her at her level, giving her my attention and making sure she knows that I am really listening to her.
I'll let you know how it goes...
p.s.- I totally plan on implementing these ideas with all of my children, it's just that Lila seems to be the one I butt heads the most with lately and who I feel the most out of control with.
p.p.s.- I really recommend taking a moment to follow the link and read the post, esp. if you have children.
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Wednesday, May 25, 2011
I remember being in the hospital after Jacob was born, and family and friends stopping by to see my beautiful new baby. I can't remember who it was, but someone was holding him and admiring his perfect, new features, and while she held him she looked at me and said, "It's hard to believe that at some point in time you are going to want to kill this child, isn't it?" I just sat there, aghast, and thinking, "What a horrible thing to say to a new mother!" Little did I know that day would come much sooner than I had anticipated with each of my children.
I've been thinking about this memory all day because Lila has been an absolute stinker from start to finish. (Well, almost finished, Brian is still trying to get her to bed as I type this.) But she can still make me laugh, even as she makes me want to pull out my hair. For example, this conversation was had after I put her in the tub, reminded her twice not to pour water out of the tub, went out of the room for less than ten seconds to grab a clean towel, and returned to find her pouring water out of the tub...
Me: Lila! What am I going to do with you?
Lila: I don' know.
Me: I think I will send you to live at the zoo.
Lila: No mama, I want ta stay wif you.
Me: You don't want to go live with the monkeys?
Me You don't think you should live with the bears?
Lila: No. I not a bear, mama. I just a Lila.
Me: Well, if you want to stay here you have to stop acting like a wild animal!
Lila: I want to stay wif you and daddy.... and Evie. Jake can go stay wif the aminals.
Me: You don't want your brother to stay with us?
Lila: No, he needs to go stay wif the aminals...
Poor Jake, he gets blamed for everything around here.
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Tuesday, May 24, 2011
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Monday, May 23, 2011
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Sunday, May 22, 2011
Today as I was walking Lila to her nursery class we met up with one of her teachers. Lila dropped my hand like a hot potato, grabbed her teacher's hand, waved and said, "Bye-bye Mama, See you afters class!" I smiled and said, "Okay, love you honey."
Because I am a primary teacher I was still heading the same direction they were. Lila kept turning around to see me behind them and finally she'd had enough. "Mom! Don't follow me, okay?" I laughed and agreed to go around the long way so that I wasn't following her. I noticed that she kept an eagle eye on me until I went out the other doors.
I am torn between being happy that she loves her nursery class so much and a little sad that she is ready to be more independent. I think the end of each baby stage is harder with her since she is my last baby.
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Saturday, May 21, 2011
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Friday, May 20, 2011
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Thursday, May 19, 2011
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Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Takes for.ev.er. Everyone puts on their pajamas, brushes their teeth and gets into bed. We read some scriptures, and then spend more time explaining them then we did reading them. (I truly don't mind that part. I like that my kids really want to know what we are reading about.) Night time prayers, lights out, hugs and kisses all around... and then the real fun begins.
Lila fusses and fights and cries and carries on until she wears herself out. Jake seems to be drifting off and then he'll pop up and ask random questions like, "How did the pilgrims treat broken bones?" or "Can the word 'victim' be used in a good way?" Evie lulls you into a false sense of security by laying there silent and still, and then two hours later will come running out with a big smile on her face and ask to be snuggled.
It is exhausting, but apparently not for the children. I know this stage won't last forever (at least it better not...) but right now there doesn't seem to be an end in sight and I don't know what to do. I'm pretty sure it's frowned upon to tie a child to their bed.
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Tuesday, May 17, 2011
The soporific sound of rain falling outside and my sweet baby breathing on my neck while we snuggled during nap time.
The funny way Lila can't say certain sounds at the beginnings of words, she would say we were "nuggling".
She also asked me to help her find her "neakers" and we looked with "noculars".
The happy sound that is my two older children getting along and the melodic tinkle of legos from down the stairs.
Proof that some of the lessons are getting through to my stubborn two year old, as she blamed her brother for writing on a toy with marker and told him that it was "a very much big NO NO!"
That although one of my favorite times of day is when they are all asleep, nothing beats a slightly sticky kiss and a sleepy good morning from them either.
I really do love being a mom.
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Monday, May 16, 2011
Me: Jake? Will you please run downstairs and restart the dryer for thirty minutes please?
Jake: Oh sure!
Five minutes later...
Jake: Mom? I had a distracting thought enter my head. What did you ask me to do again?
I have to admit that this is an improvement over our normal pattern of behavior. Usually he would have the distracting thought, not realize it, and I would go down a half an hour later to switch the laundry only to find still wet clothes in the dryer. Silly boy.
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Sunday, May 15, 2011
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Saturday, May 14, 2011
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Tonight Jake said the dinner prayer. A perfectly normal "thank you for our blessings, please bless the food" kind of prayer. After it was over he looked at me and asked, "Was that too political?" I smiled and said, "No, no it wasn't." Brian laughed and said, "It wasn't political at all." Jake thought for a moment and then said, "Oh! Maybe next time I should pray for less immigrants."
When we finally stopped laughing enough to catch our breaths, we hurried to explain that that was definitely not an appropriate subject for a prayer. We are still trying to figure out where he even heard that phrase as political discussions are not something that happen in our house.
Posted by Chrissy at 9:34 PM
I have really enjoyed having Caitlin as a workout buddy. Even though it means that sometimes we have to go to the insanely early class because of her work schedule. One of the things I like the best is that we often go walk for a mile after the workout. It's always nice to walk with someone who has the same size stride as you...
Today we took our walk and as we were leaving the parking lot Caite put her purse into her car. Because I didn't have any pockets I put my keys and phone into her purse. We walked and talked and enjoyed the spring morning, until we got back to the car and Caitlin put her hands in her pockets and realized that she had also put her keys and phone into her purse before locking it into the car. I just looked at her for a moment and then said, "Man. You are seriously channeling Mom right now." She protested slightly and then said, "I'll have you know it's been quite awhile since I've done this... it's been at least six months!" I burst out laughing and said, "Caite. Most people measure the time between locking their keys in the car in years, not months."
I asked her as we were going in to borrow a phone to call for help, if Patrick was working or would he be able to bring the spare key over. She hung her head a little lower and muttered, "We don't have a spare key." Over my renewed laughter she said, "I'm going to go get some made when we leave here..." She called Dad who came over to try and jimmy the car open. No luck. We eventually had to call the Centerville police department who said, "That's Bountiful's jurisdiction." So we called Bountiful who said, "That's Centerville's jurisdiction." I couldn't help thinking "So this parking lot is the perfect place to commit a crime, no one's policing it!" A Centerville officer eventually responded and was able to open the car.
So what did we learn? I should always make sure I have pockets when I hang out with Caite, who is becoming more and more like our mom all the time.
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I am so bummed. I was on such a roll. Four and a half months without missing a single day and then blogger freaked out and wasn't available. And now my brain isn't available. So tomorrow I will catch up and tonight I will sleep so that said catch up will be intelligible. Good night.
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Wednesday, May 11, 2011
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Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Today Lila came upstairs with a small toy frying pan. She took it in her room and was playing quietly for awhile. Then from down the hall we heard that distinctive boin-oi-oi-oi-oing sound. Lila came walking out rubbing the back of her head, and Caitlin and I just burst out laughing. Caitlin looked at Lila and said, "Frying pans! Who knew?" Lila looked right back at her and said, "I don't know, maybe Mickey?" We started laughing again, and she didn't like that one bit. She put her hands on her hips and then said, "Look girls, this is my game." She shook her head in disgust and left us helplessly giggling...
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Monday, May 9, 2011
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Sunday, May 8, 2011
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Saturday, May 7, 2011
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Friday, May 6, 2011
I am happy to report that we are now a binkie free house hold. It really happened by accident more than planning. We lost the last binkie on Monday and it still has not surfaced. While I am happy with the outcome, I am also a little nervous that Lila is going to find a binkie in some bizarre place and then we'll have to start this process all over again.
The saddest moment was nap time on Tuesday. She had gotten used to only having the binkie for nap time and bed times, so I decided to snuggle her in my bed and spend a little more time reading and singing to her than I normally do since it was the first time without the binkie. She looked at me with her big brown eyes and asked, "Binkie?" "Oh honey, remember? We lost the binkie." She thought about that for a moment and then said, "But mo-oom, binkies are for nap times." I gave her a hug and said, "I know honey, but I don't have one to give you. Besides you are a big girl now. Big girls don't need binkies like little babies do." Her lip got mutinous at that point and she said, "I NOT a big girl. I a LITTLE girl. LITTLE girls NEED binkies." It took a little more conversation to prove to her satisfaction that I wasn't just holding out on her and that the binkie was really gone, but she eventually settled down and went to sleep. And she has only asked for it a few times since then and not at all in the last day! Yay!
I am torn between being happy that the baby stage of my life is over, and being sad that the baby stage of my life is over. It's an interesting thing to contemplate as Mother's Day approaches and I am spending a lot of time thinking about the kind of mother I want to be vs. the kind of mother I am. I think I'm shooting for a happy medium somewhere between Super Mom and Earth Mother, with just a dash of June Cleaver thrown in. I think I'd look good in pearls...
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Thursday, May 5, 2011
Tonight I took the two oldest kids to see Annie at the new CenterPoint Theatre. It was fun to share something that was such a large part of my childhood with them. The show was well done and both my kids seemed to really enjoy it. Jake kept noticing little things and pointing them out to me, like if a set piece didn't make it back to exactly the same spot in a different scene (Seriously, reminded me a lot of my brother...) and wanting me to explain all the political subtext of the Great Depression. I should have explained more before the show I guess. Evie was just entranced. The first act was a little difficult for her, when Miss Hannigan was being so mean to the little girls and when Annie was singing about wanting her parents to come back and get her. Evie clung to my arm like she expected to be hauled off to an orphanage at any moment. It was interesting to me to see how differently each of my children reacted to the play, even while they both really enjoyed it. On the way home I told the kids how Mima and Pa Dave took me to plays when I was a little girl and how much I always loved going to the theater, and how I hoped the performing arts was something they would learn to love and appreciate as they grow up too. Jake thought about it for a moment and then said, "You know what I would like to see, The Nutcracker." I told him it's a date!
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Wednesday, May 4, 2011
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